A. Wray is a successful author of computer programming textbooks. He has been a public school teacher, college instructor and spent several years
as a consultant and trainer before founding netImage, a web design firm. He then worked for IBM.
Today Bob Wray directs international tours for A Foreign Affair. He regularly posts to his blog, foreignbrideguide.com.
He is single and spends his leisure time at the beach, swing dancing, playing guitar and working out. He also enjoys skiing, sailing and, of course,
Some of you are interested in Latin America or Asia. Because of past travels, I selected the
Ukraine. I decided to book the March 23, 2011 tour to Odessa, Nikolayev and Kherson although I had never visited these
cities. So what are the key factors for success? Well, I believe it is several things. AFA delivered all that they promised and more. We are all
responsible for our own happiness. I would say that the keys are focused expectations and preparation. My dad used to say "Son, if you don't know
what you are looking for, you will never find it". Simple, but so true.
Know in advance what you are looking for and do your best to not deviate from your criteria. These are the "deal breakers". Examples are age, position
on children, for me, height. For you there may be others such as occupation. I don't mean to dismiss the magic. It happens. Are you willing to be
flexible on your criteria for that special girl? Believe me, they are out there and they are more flexible than you.
Then there are expectations. How do you define success? Engagement in a week? I saw it happen. However, for me I looked at it this way. I was determined
to go on a much needed vacation and have a great time - I did. I reasoned that if I returned with the personal contact information of several girls
that there was mutual attraction, great. That happened also. I returned soon, although not on a tour. I needed to discover if there is serious attraction
with these ladies and perhaps others. So, there it is for me. I am sure that it may be different for you. I saw this among the great group of guys
on the tour. We are still in touch.
You have the opportunity to meet hundreds of girls of all types, ages and circumstances. The great folks in the local, on-site AFA offices, including
their fantastic personal translators, will do all they can to help you succeed. I have no complaints about any aspect of the conduct of
the tour. You will see for yourself. View the videos of past tours. They are very accurate and truthful.
Now for some practical advice. Make a decision and go!! Very few men do so. I had a date with a gorgeous girl and asked how many letters she received
and how many guys she had met. She said hundreds of letters (she was very beautiful - a 10 over here, but I was only her second date!!).
When you go, you will be like a rock star over there. The fact is that there are millions more women than men. The Ukrainian guys and men from other
countries don't treat them well and die early. The odds are greatly in your favor. Age is a very minimal factor for them. Although I was not serious
because of my criteria (which I very carefully followed), I was easily able to date girls much younger than myself!
Prepare ahead of time by selecting ladies that you feel you could be serious with and write them just before you go. Don't write hundreds of letters.
It is not necessary. Be selective. The agency will help you meet them. That is the key to success. You will find yourself at home with a handful
of ladies that could be "the one". Oh, and don't dismiss serendipity. I saw it happen. You meet a lady one way or another and lighting strikes -
carpe diem! Just be sure to do what you can to get to know her and see if there is a possibility.
On the flip side, be very careful about "junior high infatuation" and being crushed if doesn't work out. I also saw this happen. Get back on the
horse and attend all the socials.
Study all the information on the AFA site, ask for references, listen to the weekly calls, and
attend the free seminars. Learn a bit about their culture and their language. Then get off the couch, book a tour and go!! It's the only way and
worth every penny. (What would an 11 day vacation or cruise cost you and how many women would you be likely to meet?) I wish you all the best. You
are thinking "outside the box" and being courageous. You are one of the few.